Control Freak!

Yeah I know, I have three fingers pointing back at me.

     The Control Freak is my least favorite personality type and yet the one I most readily identify with. Why do I have such a hard time just letting things be? Just because someone might do something different than I would doesn't mean that their way is wrong. Sometimes. Does it? And yet as I delve into this personality and what makes us function, I realize that we, the control freaks, are probably the most vulnerable of all personality types. I am getting teary eyed just thinking of my poor old mother and her wooden spoons with which she used to beat me half to death. Aah but I digress. So is the controlling personality having to compensate for a shortcoming? Is it a manifestation of the battle between ego and esteem? Could it just be a defense mechanism like Freud would have us believe? Like comedian Robin Williams says "If it's not one thing it's your mother".  It may simply be the fact that my way really is better than your way. Maybe? I had a mentor once that claimed the mantra that says "It's better to be happy than right". That always seemed too simplistic to me and a bit hard to swallow. But that may be because I didn't think of it first.

     So how do we become more lamb-like? Is that something we even want? Probably not and yet the people with whom we interact everyday would probably appreciate a gentler approach which is something we can accomplish with a bit of conscious effort. It may be a matter of simply putting down the spoon.